Sticks and stones can break our bones, but words can never hurt me. Wrong!
There’s a story of a major league baseball player who’s speaking to inmates in prison. One of the inmates asked him: “How did you become a professional ball player sir?”
To which he says, “You know… I think it started when I was a boy. I would play catch with my dad and he would always say: ‘You keep throwing the ball like that son, you’ll end up in the major leagues one day! You keep swinging the bat like that son, and you’ll end up in the major leagues one day.’ And here I am… A professional ball player”
The room became quiet, and the inmate who asked the question, he said: “You know… The same thing happened to me. When I was a boy, my father told me that I was good for nothing, and that one day, I would end up in prison. And here… I am.
Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me. WRONG! See, words can cut deeper and fester longer than any sword known to man. I still haven’t forgotten what they told me as a kid… The teasing, the insecurities, that it created, have you?
Consider the story of a little girl. She’s in the grocery store with her mother and she drops a bottle of milk onto the floor, breaking it. The mother says, “You stupid child, why did you do that?!”
Consider the story of another little girl who’s in the grocery store with her mother. She drops a bottle of milk onto the ground, breaking it, and this mother says “That, was a very ‘stupid’ thing you did.”
Which child do you think will grow up to have a healthier self-image and more self-confidence? The one who was called stupid or the one whose action was called stupid?
It is important to be mindful of the words that we use to our friends, our family, our loved ones, and strangers. Because sticks and stones can break our bones, but words can break our hearts. And if we are not careful, they can shatter our dreams.
When asked “What is the biggest mistake we make in life?” the Buddha replied, “The biggest mistake is you think you have time.” Time is free, but it’s priceless. You can’t own it, but you can use it. You can’t keep it, but you can spend it. And once it’s lost you can never get it back.
The average person lives 78 years. We spend 28.3 years of our life sleeping. That’s almost a third of our life, but 30% of us struggle to sleep well. We spend 10.5 years of our life working, but over 50% of us want to leave our current jobs. Time is more valuable than money. You can get more money, but you can never get more time.
We spend 9 years on T.V. and social media. We spend 6 years doing chores. We spend 4 years eating and drinking. We spend 3.5 years in education. We spend 2.5 years grooming. We spend 2.5 years shopping. We spend 1.5 years in child care. We spend 1.3 years commuting. That leaves us with 9 years. How will we spend that time?
Steve Jobs said “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.” So there’s good news and there’s bad news. The bad news is time flies; the good news is you’re the pilot. Imagine you wake up every day with $86,400 in your bank account, and at the end of the night it’s all gone whether you spent it or not. And then the next day you get another $86,400. What would we do with it?
Everyday 86,400 seconds are deposited into your life account. At the end of the day once they’re all used up, you get a new 86,400 seconds. We would never waste it if it was money, so why do we waste it when it comes to time? Those seconds are so much more powerful than dollars because you can always make more dollars, you can’t always make more time.
To realize the value of 1 year, ask a student who failed a grade. To realize the value of 1 month, ask a mother who lost their child in the final month. To realize the value of 1 week, ask the editor of an online magazine. To realize the value of 1 hour, ask the couple who’s in a long distance relationship. To realize the value of 1 minute, ask the person who just missed a bus, train, or plane. To realize the value of 1 second, ask the person who just missed an accident. To realize the value of a millisecond, ask the person who just came 2nd at the Olympics.
We think that it’s people wasting our time, but it’s really us giving them the permission to do that. And in reality, these 2 people live inside us. Don’t let someone be a priority when all you are to them is an option. Some of us lose the people most important to us because we don’t value their time. Some of us don’t recognize how important someone is to us until they’re gone.
Inside all of us are 2 voices – 1 voice that wants to uplift, 1 voice that want us to expand. 1 voice that want us to grow. And then there’s the other voice – The voice that holds us back. The voice that makes us lazy. The voice that makes us complacent. The voice that restricts us from our potential.
Every day from the moment we wake up until the moment we go to sleep, inside of us there’s this battle between the 2 voices. And guess which one wins? The one that we listen to the most. The one that we feed. The one that we amplify. It is our choice of how we use our time.
Life and time are the best two teachers. Life teaches us to make good use of time and time teaches us the value of Life. And as William Shakespeare said, “Time is very slow for those who want, very fast for those who are scared, very long for those who are sad, and very short for those who celebrate, but for those who love, time is eternal.”
Professor: Who would like this twenty-dollar bill?
Professor: Okay, I’m going to give it to one of you, but first let me to do this (crushes the bill). Okay, now who still wants it?
Class: I do!!!
Professor: What if I do this? (step and crumble the bill) Who wants it now?
Class: I do!!!
Professor: My dear students, I just showed you a very important lesson. No matter what I did to this money you still want it. Cause it never loses its worth. It’s still worth 20 dollars. While there’re many times in our lives where we feel like Life has crumbles us up and ground us into the dirt.
We may make some bad decision, or have to deal with some poor circumstances, and sometimes Life could make us feel worthless.
But no matter what has happened, no matter what will happen, you never lose your worth, you never lose your value. Don’t ever forget that.
I’ve never found anybody that didn’t want to help me if I asked them for help. I called up Bill Hewlett when I was 12 years old. And he lived in Palo Alto, his number was still in the phone book. And he answered the phone himself! – Yes? I said, Hi I’m Steve Jobs, I’m 12 years old, I’m a student in high school and I wanna build a frequency counter, and I was wondering if you had any spare parts I could have.
And he laughed and he gave me the spare parts, to build this frequency counter, and he gave me a job that summer at Hewlett Packard, working on the assembly line, putting nuts and bolts together on frequency counters. He got me a job in the place that built them. And I was in heaven.
Most people never pick up the phone and call. Most people never ask. And that’s what separates sometimes the people that do things from the people that just dream about them.
Dear future generations, I think I speak for the rest of us when I say, sorry.
Sorry we left you with our mess of a planet. Sorry that we were too caught up in our own doings to do something. Sorry we listened to people who made excuses to do nothing.
I hope you forgive us; we just didn’t realize how special the earth was. Like a marriage gone wrong, we didn’t know what we had until it was gone.
For example, I’m guessing you probably know what is the Amazon desert. Right? Well believe it or not, it was once called the Amazon rainforest. There were billions of trees there, all of them gorgeous and… Oh… You don’t know much about trees do you? Well let me tell you, trees are amazing, I mean, we literally breathe the air they are creating. They clean up our pollution, our carbon, they store & purify water, give us medicine that cure our diseases, food that feeds us.
Which is why I’m so sorry, to tell you that, we burned them down. Cut them down with brutal machines, horrific. At a rate of 40 football fields every minute, that’s 50% of all the trees in the world gone in the last hundred years. Why? For this.
And that wouldn’t make me so sad, if there weren’t so many pictures of leaves on it. You know, when I was a child, I read how the Native Americans had such consideration for the planet that they felt responsible for how the left the land for the next 7 generations.
Which brings me great sorrow because most of us today, don’t even care about tomorrow. So I’m sorry. I’m sorry that we put profit above people, greed above need, rule of gold above Golden Rule. I’m sorry we used nature as a credit card with no spending limit. Over drafting animals to extinction, stealing your chance to ever see their uniqueness, or become friends with them.
Sorry we poisoned the oceans so much that you can’t even swim in them. But most of all, I’m sorry about our mind set. Cause we had the nerve to call this destruction – Progress.
Hey Fox News, if you don’t think climate change is a threat, I dare you to interview the thousands of homeless people in Bangladesh. See while… While you were in your penthouse nestled, their homes were literally washed away beneath their feet, due to rising sea levels.
And Sarah Palin, you said that you love the smell of fossil fuels, well I urge you to talk to the kids of Beijing, who were forced to wear pollution masks just to go to school. See, you can ignore this, but the thing about truth is… It can be denied, not avoided.
So I’m sorry future generations. I’m sorry that our footprint became a sinkhole and not a garden. I’m sorry that we paid so much attention to ISIS, and very little to how fast the ice is melting in the Arctic. I’m sorry we doomed you. And I’m sorry we couldn’t find another planet in time to move to. I am s-.
You know what, cut the beat. I’m not sorry. This future, I do not accept it. Because an error does not become a mistake until you refuse to correct it. We can redirect this. How? Let me suggest that, if a farmer sees a tree that is unhealthy, they don’t look at the branches to diagnose it. They look at the root. So like that farmer, we must look at the root and not to the branches of government. Not to the politicians run by corporations. We are the root. We are the foundation.
This generation. It is up to US to take care of this planet. It is our only home. We must globally warm our hearts, and change the climate of our souls, and realize that, we are not apart from nature, we a part of nature. And to betray nature, is to betray us. To save nature, is to save us. Because, whatever you’re fighting for, racism or poverty, feminism, gay rights, or any type of equality, it won’t matter in the least.
Because if we don’t all work together to save the environment… we will be equally extinct. Sorry.