Stop saying, I love you.
Seriously, it’s the most misused phrase on Earth. It’s a nice thing to say to someone, but tell me: Do you mean it? A lot of people say it cause it’s convenient, but tell me, do you really mean it?
A reporter asked an elderly couple, “How did you manage to stay together for 65 years?” The woman’s reply blew me away. She said, “We were born in a time when if something was broken, we would fix it. Not just throw it away.” Hearing her words made me pause for a second. No, no, more than just a second because it made me realize that what most people call love today, isn’t love at all. It’s possession. And not to be a cynic but I feel most people in our generation just don’t know the difference.
So, if you’re confused then stop saying, “I love you.” Don’t even fix your lips to make the sound. You want to know the difference between love and possession? Well stay tuned as I break it down.
Contrary to popular belief, true love is not blind. It has 20/20 vision. And a loving relationship is not 50/50 either. It is 100/100. A total commitment. It’s not a trade or a balancing act. It is all chips on the table, your whole heart, and that’s that.
Do not fall into the trappings. Love says, “I want you to be happy.” Possession says, “I want you to make me happy.” Cause Possession is actually the opposite of Love; it’s other name is addiction. Love has an alias too. It goes by understanding and commitment.
See, while Possession says, “me.”; Love says, “we.” Possession is a cage; Love is the sea. Possession wants to control; Love wants to free. Possession wants to become; Love wants to be. Possession keeps receipts to remember its good deeds.
Love does not keep score but remembers we are on the same team. Possession hardens the heart; Love softens it. Possession picks a flower out of the ground, but Love waters it. Possession wants to hide; Love is vulnerable and exposed. Possession sees the body; Love sees the soul.
Love trusts the process. Possession controls the direction. Possession wants to win the argument. Love desires to win connection. Possession is filled with darkness; Love, with sunlight. Possession says,” who’s right?” Love says, “what’s right.”
Love is not sweaty palms or a pounding heart. No, it’s more of a calm explosion. Possession destroys those who touch it. Love heals all who hold it. Possession is counterfeit. Love is the only truth. Possession fades away; Love is forever because it is absolute.
But look, nothing is perfect. Even love needs to be fed. A daily dose of forgiveness, understanding, not just those empty words, sad. So, are you willing to persevere through tough times? And choose love every single day? And you willing to fix things that are broken? And not just throw them away? If you said yes, I promise your love will last a lifetime and everyday will feel brand new.
Just do me one favor. Please respect the word, “Love”. And say it only to those you truly do.