The people you are hanging out with are not your friends.
I want you to ask yourself this question:
Are they raising you up? Or pushing you down?
Are they helping you grow? Or holding you back?
You have something special inside of you. I can see it. But I feel like the people you hang around, they have their own agendas. And I’ve had people like this in my life before; people who wanted to get close to me, use me to get what they wanted, and then once they got it, they left.
So you can’t call everybody your friend. The word FRIEND comes from an European word FREUND, meaning to love. These people they don’t love you. They don’t belong in your “Squad”. A squad is a team of people who you go to war with. They fight with you, you fight with them. You fight together.
See, a true friend isn’t somebody who makes your problems disappear. But they are the ones who won’t disappear when you face problems. See fake friends are like shadows. They’re around you during the brightest times, but they disappear during the darkest times. So I’m gonna tell you this: It’s better to walk alone at night than with a fake friend in the light. Better an enemy attack you than a fake friend hugs you.
See, I know sometimes it’s fun hanging out with them. You laugh. You joke. But that don’t mean much. It’s easy to be friends when things are going well. But what about when things ain’t going well? Oprah said: Everybody wants to ride with you in the limo, but what about when that limo breaks down, and it’s cold. Who’s going to be there with you on the side of the road? Who’s gonna be there to carry your bags with you as you gotta walk home?
See, I don’t want to preach, but your Life is dependent on two things: The people you hang out with and the books you read. Do not stunt your growth by hanging out with the wrong crowd. I’m gonna say it again: You have a gift inside of you. You gotta answer that call. Because it’s not gonna ring forever. The more time you spend with these people, the less time you’re gonna have to bring that gift out.
I know you may say it don’t matter, it don’t matter, they don’t affect me. And to that I want to ask you this: What’s the easiest way to catch a cold? You hang out with somebody with a cold, right? What’s the easiest way to catch a negative mindset? You hang out with somebody with a negative mindset. The energy you hang around, it matters. You can’t hang around energy vampires. They say people come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
See, I believe these so called “friends” you have their season has passed. And it’s your season now. Where you flourish. Where you grow. And you become exactly who you were always meant to be.
Do you know what day of the week you are most likely to DIE from a HEART ATTACK? Take a guess. I’ll give you a second. It’s Monday. Care to guess what time? It is between 8 and 9 A.M.
Do you know what else happens Monday at 8? That is the same day and time people get ready to go into jobs THEY HATE. Coincidence? I don’t think so.
Take a look at this chart. This is the lifespan of the average person. On average we live about 80 years… if we’re lucky. We start working at about 18, and we work, work, work and retire at about 67. Now what does this tell you? That for better or for worse, the majority of YOUR life will be spent at WORK.
DO NOT spend that time unhappy like my friend Jae. See Jae, would always say “When I finish school, then I’ll be happy.” Well Jae finished school but he wasn’t happy… So then Jae said, when I get a job THEN I’ll be happy.” Jae got a job but he still wasn’t happy… So Jae said, “When I get married, settle down and have kids THEN I’ll be happy.”
Well, he got married, settled down, had two kids, but still… wasn’t happy. So then Jae said, “Okay, when the kids leave home and I retire THENNNN I’ll be happy.” Well the kids left home and he retired but he still wasn’t happy. So Jae started going to church. And I asked Jae why he was going to church so much. And he said, “Because, when I die THEN I’ll be happy…”
Jae’s story however sad, is not unique. I could have replaced Jae with Johnny or Bonnie. In fact, Jae’s initials stand for Just About Everybody. Many of us are like Jae. But it is NOT OUR FAULT. We HAVE BEEN TRICKED to stay stuck in jobs that are literally MAKING US SICK. And to be AND THEN PEOPLE. You know about the “And-Then” people right? It’s people who constantly say “AND THEN I’LL BE HAPPY.”
Ladies and gentlemen, we must go from living as “And-Thens” to becoming RIGHT NOWS. We have to be happy right NOW. How? We must either find a job we LOVE, or bring more LOVE into our jobs. It is time to STEP OUT of the rat race. Because the funny thing is, even if you win, make a load of money, hold up the trophy that everybody hails… you’re still a furry rodent with a pointy nose and long tail…
WAKE UP. Stop playing with YOUR LIFE. This ain’t a video game. This ain’t Mario Kart. This ain’t Fortnite. There is no “Try Again” button, no option to redo this level. When the game’s over, GAMES OVER. But there is one cheat code, to the human console. And that is to take control. And to stop buying into the lies society has told like how, overworking is cool, and being stressed out is a status symbol.
Oh, and hey I almost forgot, the biggest lie: Keep a WORK LIFE BALANCE. Now on the surface you may not see how crazy that sounds. But think about it… Work/Life balance? Shouldn’t it be the OTHER way around? Shouldn’t Life come before Work because when your Life is better, your work is better.
But don’t take my opinion. Harvard professor Shawn Achor recently discovered something fantastic which he calls the “Happiness Advantage”. His studies prove that 75% of job success can be predicted by not how smart you are, not how talented you are, but how HAPPY you are. His research is decisive. He says when you’re happy, your intelligence rises, creativity rises, your productivity rises. And you know what else is funny, you also MAKE MORE MONEY.
But here’s the real kicker… You live longer too. I know, it sounds too good to be true, but yes, optimists actually live longer than pessimists, so you could stretch this graph a few extra years if this time here is filled with more joy and cheer.
Let me be clear. Do not take this message lightly. It is your duty to be HAPPY. For your own sake. I don’t care if you’re here at the end. It is NEVER TOO LATE to trade in your DEADLIHOOD for a LIVELIHOOD and refuse to suffer during the WEEKDAYS. Ironic they call it that cause you’re literally in WEAK DAZE when you’re constantly waiting for the WEEKEND.
See, I believe so many people die of heart attacks because they are involved in work that their hearts are JUST NOT IN. I believe people have low vital signs because they are involved in work that is not VITAL to THEM.
My friends, happiness is a choice. But anyone who says it’s easy, has lied. It ain’t easy… But you have TO TRY. The first step is to look inside and remember the quote that the Buddha wrote two thousand years ago which I believe today for most people STILL APPLIES.
The problem is YOU THINK YOU HAVE TIME. STOP WASTING YOUR LIFE.
After a wedding ceremony in New York a few years ago, the FATHER of the BRIDE took the GROOM aside to give him some advice on how to keep the MARRIAGE long and HAPPY.
FATHER: You probably love my daughter a lot..
GROOM: Oh, Yes!
FATHER: And you probably think she is the most wonderful person in the world…
GROOM: Yes, she is so perfect in every way.
FATHER: That’s how it is when you get married… But after a few years… You will begin to see flaws in my daughter… And when you do begin to notice her faults, I want you to remember this: If she didn’t have those faults to begin with, she would have married someone much better. Thank you.
The moral of the story is… we should CELEBRATE and be HAPPY for the FAULTS and FLAWS of our partners, because if they didn’t have those flaws, they would be with someone much better… than us.
Seriously, it’s the most misused phrase on Earth. It’s a nice thing to say to someone, but tell me: Do you mean it? A lot of people say it cause it’s convenient, but tell me, do you really mean it?
A reporter asked an elderly couple, “How did you manage to stay together for 65 years?” The woman’s reply blew me away. She said, “We were born in a time when if something was broken, we would fix it. Not just throw it away.” Hearing her words made me pause for a second. No, no, more than just a second because it made me realize that what most people call love today, isn’t love at all. It’s possession. And not to be a cynic but I feel most people in our generation just don’t know the difference.
So, if you’re confused then stop saying, “I love you.” Don’t even fix your lips to make the sound. You want to know the difference between love and possession? Well stay tuned as I break it down.
Contrary to popular belief, true love is not blind. It has 20/20 vision. And a loving relationship is not 50/50 either. It is 100/100. A total commitment. It’s not a trade or a balancing act. It is all chips on the table, your whole heart, and that’s that.
Do not fall into the trappings. Love says, “I want you to be happy.” Possession says, “I want you to make me happy.” Cause Possession is actually the opposite of Love; it’s other name is addiction. Love has an alias too. It goes by understanding and commitment.
See, while Possession says, “me.”; Love says, “we.” Possession is a cage; Love is the sea. Possession wants to control; Love wants to free. Possession wants to become; Love wants to be. Possession keeps receipts to remember its good deeds.
Love does not keep score but remembers we are on the same team. Possession hardens the heart; Love softens it. Possession picks a flower out of the ground, but Love waters it. Possession wants to hide; Love is vulnerable and exposed. Possession sees the body; Love sees the soul.
Love trusts the process. Possession controls the direction. Possession wants to win the argument. Love desires to win connection. Possession is filled with darkness; Love, with sunlight. Possession says,” who’s right?” Love says, “what’s right.”
Love is not sweaty palms or a pounding heart. No, it’s more of a calm explosion. Possession destroys those who touch it. Love heals all who hold it. Possession is counterfeit. Love is the only truth. Possession fades away; Love is forever because it is absolute.
But look, nothing is perfect. Even love needs to be fed. A daily dose of forgiveness, understanding, not just those empty words, sad. So, are you willing to persevere through tough times? And choose love every single day? And you willing to fix things that are broken? And not just throw them away? If you said yes, I promise your love will last a lifetime and everyday will feel brand new.
Just do me one favor. Please respect the word, “Love”. And say it only to those you truly do.
### Mark Hanna (Matthew McConaughey) performing the “Money Chant” while pounding his chest. After the chant he snorts some cocaine and offered to Jordan Belfort (Leonardo DiCaprio) ###
Mark Hanna: Tootski?
Jordan Belfort: Oh, no, no, thank you though.
Hector the Waiter: Misters, what can I bring for you on this glorious afternoon?
Mark Hanna: Well, Hector here’s the game plan. You’re gonna bring us two Absolut martinis, you know how I like ’em, straight up. And then precisely seven and one half minutes after that you’re gonna bring us two more. And then two more after that every five minutes until one of us passes the fuck out.
Hector the Waiter: Excellent strategy, sir.
Jordan Belfort: Oh, I’m…I’m good with water for now though. Thank you.
Mark Hanna: It’s his first day on Wall Street, give him time. Thank you.
Hector the Waiter: Mm-hmm.
Jordan Belfort: Thank you. Mr. Hanna, you’re able to…to do drugs during the day and still function, still do your job?
Mark Hanna: Well, how the fuck else would you do this job? Cocaine and hookers, my friends.
Jordan Belfort: Right. I gotta say, I’m incredibly excited to be a part of your firm. I mean…the clients you have are absolutely…
Mark Hanna: Fuck the clients. Your only responsibility is to put meat on the table. You got a girlfriend?
Jordan Belfort: I’m…I’m married. I have a wife; her name is Teresa. She cuts hair.
Mark Hanna: Congratulations.
Jordan Belfort: Thank you.
Mark Hanna: Think about Teresa. Name of the game, move the money from your clients’ pocket into your pocket.
Jordan Belfort: Right. But if you can make the clients’ money at the same time, it’s advantageous to everyone, correct?
Mark Hanna: No. Number one rule of Wall Street. Nobody, I don’t care if you’re Warren Buffet or if you’re Jimmy Buffet, nobody knows if a stock is gonna go up, down, sideways or in fucking circles, least of all stock brokers, right?
Jordan Belfort: Mm-hmm.
Mark Hanna: It’s all a fugazi. Do you know what fugazi is?
Jordan Belfort: Fugazi, it’s a fake…
Mark Hanna: Yeah, fugazi, fogazi. It’s a wazi, it’s a woozi. It’s…fairy dust. It doesn’t exist, it’s never landed, it is no matter, it’s not on the elemental chart. It’s not fucking real. Right?
Jordan Belfort: Right.
Mark Hanna: Alright?
Jordan Belfort: Right.
Mark Hanna: Stay with me. We don’t create shit; we don’t build anything.
Jordan Belfort: No.
Mark Hanna: So if you got a client who brought stock at eight, and it now sits at sixteen, and he’s all fucking happy, he wants to cash it and liquidate and take his fucking money and run home. You don’t let him do that.
Jordan Belfort: Okay.
Mark Hanna: Cause that would make it real.
Jordan Belfort: Right.
Mark Hanna: No, what do you do? You get another brilliant idea, a special idea. Another situation, another stock to reinvest his earnings and then some. And he will, every single time. Cause they’re fucking addicted. And then you just keep doing this, again, and again, and again. Meanwhile, he thinks he’s getting shit rich, which he is, on paper. But you and me, the brokers?
Jordan Belfort: Right.
Mark Hanna: We’re taking home cold hard cash via commission, motherfucker.
Jordan Belfort: Right! That’s incredible, sir. I’m…I can’t tell you how excited I am.
Mark Hanna: You should be. There’s two keys to success in the broker business. First of all, you gotta stay relaxed.
Jordan Belfort: Yeah.
Mark Hanna: You jerk off?
Jordan Belfort: Do I…do I jerk off? Yeah. Yeah, I jerk off, yeah.
Mark Hanna: How many times a week?
Jordan Belfort: Like, uh…three…three, three, four…three or four times, maybe five.
Mark Hanna: You gotta pump those numbers up. Those are rookie numbers in this racket. I, myself, I jerk off at least twice a day.
Jordan Belfort: Wow.
Mark Hanna: Once in the morning, right after I work out, and then once right after lunch.
Jordan Belfort: Really?
Mark Hanna: Mm-hmm. Why? I want to. That’s not why I do it. I do it because I fucking need to. Think about it, you’re dealing with numbers all day long. Decimal points, high frequencies, bang, bang, bang. Eh-eh-eh-eh. Fucking digits kick, kick, kick, all very acidic above the shoulders mustard shit.
Jordan Belfort: Mm-hmm.
Mark Hanna: Right?
Jordan Belfort: Mm-hmm.
Mark Hanna: The con can wig some people out.
Jordan Belfort: Mm-hmm.
Mark Hanna: Right? So you gotta feed the geese to keep the blood flowing. And keep the rhythm below the belt.
Jordan Belfort: Done.
Mark Hanna: This is not a tip, this is a prescription. Trust me. If you don’t, you will fall out of balance. Glitch your differential and the tip fuck over. Or worse yet, I’ve seen this happen, implode.
Jordan Belfort: No, I don’t wanna implode, sir.
Mark Hanna: No. No, you don’t.
Jordan Belfort: I’m in it for the long run, you know?
Mark Hanna: Yeah. Implosions are ugly.
Jordan Belfort: Yeah.
Mark Hanna: Pop off to the bathroom, work one out anytime you can. And when you get really good at it, you’ll be fucking stroking it and you’ll be thinking about money.
Mark Hanna: Second key to success. In this racket is this little baby right here, it’s called cocaine.
Jordan Belfort: Right.
Mark Hanna: It will keep you sharp between the ears. It’ll also help your fingers dial faster. And guess what? That’s good for me. Yes, sir. Revolutions, you follow?
Jordan Belfort: Revolutions.
Mark Hanna: Keep the client on the Ferris Wheel, and it goes, the park is open twenty-four-seven, three-six-five. Every decade, every
Goddamn century. That’s it. Name of the game. Halkidiki? Mmm.
Jordan Belfort: Thank you.
### Mark Hanna starts to perform the “Money Chant” ###
Mark Hanna: Come on. With a common denominator. Keep it up for me. The CEO. How the money comes in. The parade comes to town. Going down Broadway. It’s a one-way street, whichever way I go.
Thank you, Mr. Secretary General, UNICEF Executive Director, and all the excellencies and distinguished guests from all across the world. My name is Kim Nam Jun, also known as RM, the leader of the group BTS. It is an incredible honour to be invited to an occasion with such significance for today’s young generation.
Last November, BTS launched the Love Myself campaign with UNICEF, building on our belief that true love first begins with loving myself. We have been partnering with UNICEF’s #ENDviolence Programme, to protect children and young people all over the world from violence. And our fans have become a major part of this campaign, with their action and with their enthusiasm. We truly have the best fans in the world.
And I’d like to being by talking about myself. I was born in Ilsan, a city near Seoul, South Korea. It is a really beautiful place, with a lake, hills, and even an annual flower festival. I spent a very happy childhood there and I was just an ordinary boy. I used to look up at the night sky in wonder and I used to dream the dreams of a boy. I used to imagine that I was a superhero who could save the world.
And in an intro to one of our early albums, there is a line that says “My heart stopped when I was maybe nine or ten.” Looking back, I think that’s when I began to worry about what other people thought of me, and started seeing myself through their eyes. I stopped looking up at the night skies, the stars. I stopped daydreaming. Instead, I just tried to jam myself into the moulds that other people made. Soon, I began to shut out my own voice and started to listen to the voices of others.
No one called out my name and neither did I.
My heart stopped and my eyes closed shut. So, like this, I, we, all lost our names. We became like ghosts. But I had one sanctuary and that was music. There was a small voice inside of me that said “Wake up man, and listen to yourself.” But it took me quite a long time to hear music calling my real name. Even after making the decision to join BTS, there were a lot of hurdles. Some people might not believe it but most people thought we were hopeless. And sometimes, I just wanted to quit.
But I think I was very lucky that I didn’t give it all up. And I’m sure that I and we will keep stumbling and falling like this. BTS has become artists performing in those huge stadiums and selling millions of albums right now but I am still an ordinary 24-year-old-guy. If there’s anything that I’ve achieved, it was only possible that I have my other BTS members right by my side, and because of the love and the support that our army fans all over the world made for us.
And maybe I made a mistake yesterday, but yesterday’s me is still me. Today, I am who I am with all of my faults and my mistakes. Tomorrow I might be a tiny bit wiser, and that will be me too. These faults and mistakes are what I am making up the brightest stars in the constellation of my life. I have come to love myself for who I am, for who I was, and for who I hope to become.
I’d like to say one last thing. After releasing our Love Yourself albums and launching the Love Myself campaign, we started to hear remarkable stories from our fans all over the world, how our message helped them overcome their hardships in life, and start loving themselves.
Those stories constantly remind us of our responsibility. So let’s all take one more step. We have learned to love ourselves, so now I urge you to “speak yourself”. I’d like to ask all of you – What is your name? What excites you and makes your heart beat? Tell me your story. I want to hear your voice and I want to hear your conviction. No matter who you are, where you’re from – your skin colour, your gender identity – just speak yourself.
Find your name and find your voice by speaking yourself. I’m Kim Nam Jun and also RM of BTS. I’m an idol and I’m an artist from a small town in Korea. Like most people, I’ve made many and plenty mistakes in my life. I have many faults and I have many more fears, but I’m going to embrace myself as hard as I can, and I’m starting to love myself, gradually, just little by little.
If you had just one shot, if you had just one opportunity – to seize everything you ever wanted in one moment – would you capture it, or would you just let it slip?
If you think you know the right answer, let me just say that when I was sitting in your shoes, my palms were sweaty, my knees were weak and my arms were heavy. When I got to the theatre, I almost immediately threw up on my favourite sweater, which sucked because it was my mom’s spaghetti, which I was near going to get back.
Obviously, I was nervous but, on the surface, I looked calm, and ready to drop bombs on the audience. That was my job as an actor after all, to put on an act. As soon as I walked on stage, I opened my mouth, but the playwright’s words were not being spoken. The whole crowd booed so loudly. No words were being said.
I choked. Some people even started laughing. I tried to redeem myself on stage buy I ran out of time. The clock had run out and “BLAM!”. My 15 seconds of possible fame were over and I had to snap back to reality. Gravity brought me back down to Earth. When people saw me on the street, they would say, “Oh, there goes the rabbit from ‘Harvey’ who choked.”
They made me furious, but I wasn’t going to give up that easy. I knew I had the talent to make it, despite the fact that I was broke. When I would go back to my rundown apartment, that’s when I decided to write my own material for the stage. I wrote my own play. My own rhapsody, if you will. Because I decided to capture the moment and not let it pass me, I controlled my own destiny, and allowed myself to achieve massive success, as a stage actor on Broadway.
Here I am today, humbly, so humbly, passing my story down to all of you. If you take away nothing else from what I say, at least take away this:
If you want to succeed in the real world, then you better lose yourself in the music of life.Lose yourself in the moment. You own it and you can never let it go. Most likely, you will only get one shot, and even if you blow it, you better not miss out on your chance to blow it. The opportunity that lies before you comes only once in a lifetime.
Control it, because you can do anything that you set your mind to.
I read a study yesterday. It said that last year, more than half of us actually chose NOT to take our full vacation from our jobs. Question: Don’t you think it’s crazy that so many of us go into work even when we don’t need to be there? Times we could be on the beach buried in sand, or traveling the earth. We spend it in the office traveling from desk to desk. Buried in paper work.
See, in this chaotic world, everything goes so fast. We’re so busy, seems like everyone’s middle name is “Multi-Task”. But now, now before you go and act all, holier-than-thou, how many extra tabs do you have open on your computer, right now?
See, we all need time to get away from the race. Four our family, friends, for the sake of our mental state. Time to rewind, recharge, and reconnect. Not reporting to the office on e-mails that should be on re-direct. Because Life, ladies and gentlemen, is all about moments. No one in history has ever been able to hold onto one, not a single soul. And you never get them back.
See? There one goes. No do-over, no rewind, no DVD root menu to skip to a previous scene. Ask yourself, how many trips did you almost take? How many sites have you almost seen? How many moments have you lost thinking about the next one? Thinking that, once you get this, or get there, maybe that will be the best one. Life has taught me that, all we will ever have is, NOW.
But let me be perfectly clear… I’m not saying to quit your job. Even though I know you deserve a six-month vacation, twice a year. But how about, small steps, short trips, with long dances, no distractions. Spend time with family instead of co-workers. Meditation instead of aggravation. Replace our screensavers with sunrises, palm pilots with palm trees, jammed copy machines with… Man, I really hate jammed copy machines.
The most precious thing we have in life, are moments. Let’s make the most of them before they disappear. Let’s see the world while we still can. And cherish those while they’re still here. Because when our lives are almost over, it won’t matter how much money we made, or hours we worked, or times we got employee of the month. What we will look back on are the memories we made, the hours we spent with those we loved and, were we father of the month, mother of the year, friend of a lifetime.
Holidays should be a time where we, go away and come together.
From now on let’s take a whole vacation, and be fully present.
1. Breathe. If you don’t, you’ll suffocate.2. You have a soul. Be careful with it.3. Don’t be a turd. If you’re strong, be a protector. And if you’re smart, be a humble influencer. Strength and intelligence can be weapons, and do not wield them against the weak. That makes you a bully. Be bigger than that.4. When giving a dog medicine, put the medicine in a little piece of hamburger, they won’t even know they’re eating medicine.5. Doesn’t matter what it is, earn it. A good dead, reach out to someone in pain, be of service, it feels good, and it’s good for your soul.6. God is real. God loves you. God wants the best for you. Believe that. I do.7. If you have to poop at a party, but you’re embarrassed because you’re goanna stink up the bathroom, just do what I do. Lock the door, sit down, get all the pee out first. Okay? And then, once all the pee’s done, poop, flush, boom. You minimise the amount of time the poop is touching the air, because if you poop first, it takes you longer to pee and then you’re peeing on top of it, stirring it up, the poop particles create a cloud, it goes out and then everyone in the party will know that you pooped. Just trust me, it’s science.8. Learn to pray. It’s easy, and it’s so good for your soul.9. Nobody is perfect. People are going to tell you you’re perfect just the way you are. YOU’RE NOT! You are imperfect. You always will be. But there is a powerful force that designed you that way, and if you’re willing to accept that, you will have grace. And grace is a gift. And like the freedom that we enjoy in this country that grace was paid for with somebody else’s blood. Do not forget it. Don’t take it for granted.
Thank you! Can you hear me? I don’t want to lean down. I want to thank Bryce and Aubrey, I love you both so much. Thank you MTV for this honour. Real quick thanks to my mum and my dad, and my brother Cully, my sister Angie. I love you, I love our family. We didn’t have a pot to piss in growing up, but we laughed our butts off every day and we still do. And a special mention to my son Jack, who will watch this one day. Kid, I love you. I love you more than anything in the world.
And to the fans, I wouldn’t be here without you. Thank you.
This being the Generation Award, I’m going to cut to the chase and I’m going to speak to you, the next generation. Okay. I accept the responsibility as your elder, so listen up.
This is what I call:
Nine Rules from Chris Pratt: Generation Award Winner
Breathe. If you don’t, you’ll suffocate.
You have a soul. Be careful with it.
Don’t be a turd. If you’re strong, be a protector. And if you’re smart, be a humble influencer. Strength and intelligence can be weapons, and do not wield them against the weak. That makes you a bully. Be bigger than that.
When giving a dog medicine, put the medicine in a little piece of hamburger, they won’t even know they’re eating medicine.
Doesn’t matter what it is, earn it. A good dead, reach out to someone in pain, be of service, it feels good, and it’s good for your soul.
God is real. God loves you. God wants the best for you. Believe that. I do.
If you have to poop at a party, but you’re embarrassed because you’re goanna stink up the bathroom, just do what I do. Lock the door, sit down, get all the pee out first. Okay? And then, once all the pee’s done, poop, flush, boom. You minimise the amount of time the poop is touching the air, because if you poop first, it takes you longer to pee and then you’re peeing on top of it, stirring it up, the poop particles create a cloud, it goes out and then everyone in the party will know that you pooped. Just trust me, it’s science.
Learn to pray. It’s easy, and it’s so good for your soul.
Nobody is perfect. People are going to tell you you’re perfect just the way you are. YOU’RE NOT! You are imperfect. You always will be. But there is a powerful force that designed you that way, and if you’re willing to accept that, you will have grace. And grace is a gift. And like the freedom that we enjoy in this country that grace was paid for with somebody else’s blood. Do not forget it. Don’t take it for granted.
Sticks and stones can break our bones, but words can never hurt me. Wrong!
There’s a story of a major league baseball player who’s speaking to inmates in prison. One of the inmates asked him: “How did you become a professional ball player sir?”
To which he says, “You know… I think it started when I was a boy. I would play catch with my dad and he would always say: ‘You keep throwing the ball like that son, you’ll end up in the major leagues one day! You keep swinging the bat like that son, and you’ll end up in the major leagues one day.’ And here I am… A professional ball player”
The room became quiet, and the inmate who asked the question, he said: “You know… The same thing happened to me. When I was a boy, my father told me that I was good for nothing, and that one day, I would end up in prison. And here… I am.
Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me. WRONG! See, words can cut deeper and fester longer than any sword known to man. I still haven’t forgotten what they told me as a kid… The teasing, the insecurities, that it created, have you?
Consider the story of a little girl. She’s in the grocery store with her mother and she drops a bottle of milk onto the floor, breaking it. The mother says, “You stupid child, why did you do that?!”
Consider the story of another little girl who’s in the grocery store with her mother. She drops a bottle of milk onto the ground, breaking it, and this mother says “That, was a very ‘stupid’ thing you did.”
Which child do you think will grow up to have a healthier self-image and more self-confidence? The one who was called stupid or the one whose action was called stupid?
It is important to be mindful of the words that we use to our friends, our family, our loved ones, and strangers. Because sticks and stones can break our bones, but words can break our hearts. And if we are not careful, they can shatter our dreams.