Wayne Dyer once said when we changed the way we look at things; the things we look at change. So often we’re just seeing half the picture, half the story, half the words. And with that half perspective, we live a half-hearted life.
We don’t look at things, we don’t zoom out and look at the bigger picture. We don’t zoom out and actually look at things as a whole with a greater perspective.
See, when you’re walking on the streets in the city next to buildings, they all look the same height. You can’t tell the difference. But then when you’re flying in a plane, you can see the difference between the taller and shorter buildings.
Everything gets into perspective.
When we’re too zoom in into the details and the minute points, we don’t see everything. When we zoom out and take a bird’s eye view and step back from our lives, we gain a greater perspective.
Every day, we recharge our phones, but we forget TO RECHARGE OURSELVES. Let’s just say we slept well the night before, which means we start our day with 100% charge. When we wake up in the morning, we roll over and 80% of us check our smartphones before we brush our teeth. We scroll through social media, we browse through emails, that takes away 10% of our energy.
Let’s say we now have 90% charge left. We then commute to work, we spend our day in the office, in meetings, interacting with colleagues, finishing off projects and assignments. We now have 40% charge left.
On the way home, we commute through traffic, or on the train, and that takes away another let’s say, 10%. We now have 30% charge left.
We come home and switch on Netflix, talk to someone about what our day was like and sometimes we lose another 10%. We now have 20% charge left.
At 20% on our phones, usually the charge bar goes red. We get an alert. We get a message that tells us that we only have 20% battery left. The question is, do we notice when our charge is at 20% or 10%? There are always signs from our bodies, our brains, our minds. But are we tuned in?
One of the best things we can do to recharge is to exercise. The hardest part of any workout is actually the 15 minutes leading up to it. We come up with 15 reasons why we don’t want to sweat and we change our mind 15 different times.
CNN reports that when you work out, your brain creates more serotonin which sends messages to our nervous system of happiness and well-being. Working out for thirty to forty minutes every day can recharge our battery by twenty percent.
Meditation is an incredible way to recharge our batteries. Exactly what the gym does for the body, meditation can do for the mind. Meditation gives us down time, physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Medication also directly impacts your entire nervous system by reducing your body’s productions of stress-related chemicals such as cortisol. Meditation is a great way to recharge and can take you back up twenty percent.
We’ve all heard about incredible morning routines but the one thing that can make a huge difference to a recharge is your evening routine.
35% of us are not getting the recommended 7 hours of sleep per night. Remember, every body and mind is different, make sure you find the amount of time you need to get that serious battery recharge. And the 75-year study by Harvard found that beyond anything, the real sense checks for happiness and meaning in life was relationships, connections, interactions with depth that are fulfilling and full of joy.
Making time for deep, meaningful interactions every day can give the recharge our battery seriously needs.
What if we recharged ourselves as much as we recharge our phones? Because if we don’t, we’ll end up like one of our phones in the bottom of some drawer in our home.
After a long time, the other day, my friends and I went bowling. And I started to think to myself that Life is a lot like bowling.
Bowling is a team sport just like life. In bowling, sometimes the best players struggle, and others that were less likely to do well, surprise you and make all the difference. This is one of my favourite lessons: focusing on someone else’s score doesn’t make yours any better.
It’s easy to get distracted by how well someone else is playing. You see their score go up, they bowl a strike or a spare. And you’re calculating in your mind what you think that could be. But all that does is it distracts you from your game.
Similarly, in life, focusing on someone else’s Instagram grid doesn’t make yours any better. Focusing on what someone else is doing for work or what they’re driving doesn’t make yours any better. Focus on yourself, focus on your own role, your strengths, that will make all the difference.
And that leads us nicely to the next lesson: There’s different ways to play the game.
Some people spin the ball, some people go for a straight, direct roll, some people use two or three fingers, the list continues. The truth is, it’s exactly the same in our lives. You will see some people succeed in a certain way. And others doing it completely differently.
The goal is to find your way. Your method. Your approach. The direction that works for you. Without trying to copy, mimic, or imitate someone else.
And we’ve all experienced this, sometimes your ball ends up in the gutter. I’m sure you’ve had that before, sometimes your throw was completely out of control and your ball went directly into the gutter. Or maybe sometimes you actually felt well-prepared and confident, but the ball still ended up in the gutter.
In life, just like that ball, sometimes we feel we’re in the gutter. But there’s something to learn from that. And just like the ball comes back, when we learn through our experience, we get another opportunity to improve, another opportunity to try, another opportunity to succeed. As Oscar Wilde said, “All of us are in the gutter, but some of us are looking up at the stars.”
Sometimes, you hit a spare. You threw your best shot, you got the angle perfectly right, you prepared with everything you had, and that one pin is still up there. Sometimes, despite our best efforts in life, we don’t get what we want. Not everything aligns. Everything doesn’t go to plan. Life is a lot like bowling, keep your eyes on the ball, your concentration in the game, and your mind out of the gutter.
And in the end we realize, we have to be just like that bowling pin. No matter how hard we’re hit by life, no matter how hard we’re hit by others, we have to keep stepping back up.
① We believe that because we’ve been unsuccessful in the past, that the barrier still exists even for new ventures. In other words, we continue to see a barrier in our heads, that separates us from our dreams, even though there is no real barrier, between where we are, and where we want to go.
And remember this – The teacher has failed more times than the student has even tried
② Imagine you wake up every day with $86,400 in your bank account, and at the end of the night it’s all gone whether you spent it or not. And then the next day you get another $86,400. What would we do with it?
Everyday 86,400 seconds are deposited into your life account. At the end of the day once they’re all used up you get a new 86,400 seconds.We would never waste it if it was money, so why do we waste it when it comes to time?
Those seconds are so much more powerful than dollars because you can always make more dollars, you can’t always make more time.
③ We cannot avoid the ups and downs, but we can change the way we see them. Because as Wayne Dyer said – When we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change.
④ We all face distraction. We all experience distraction. We’re all played by distraction. But often we think that the opposite of distraction is focus.We think that we need to become more focused. We think that if we’re focused we’ll feel less distracted. We feel that if we’re able to draw our energy in a certain direction and force ourselves to absorb in an activity then we won’t be as distracted, but this is just not true.
The opposite of distraction is actually not focus. The opposite of distraction is, wait for it, attraction.
What we really need to do is increase our attraction. When we are attracted to something, we’re naturally focused. We’re naturally able to be present. We’re naturally able to bring our attention and our energy to that task, that project, that person. When we’re distracted and don’t have that attraction, we’re naturally all over the place.
We end up feeling lost, confused, and end up procrastinating. But no matter what you do, no matter how much you chase your passion and live your purpose, it will still be things you have to do on a daily basis that you don’t find interesting, and naturally you’ll feel unfocused and distracted.
For that, ask yourself this question: “Why am I here? Why am I doing this?” and you’ll find the mind will start to become attracted to that activity, tasks, or even that person.
⑤ Our health is the foundation of how we can build our time and wealth. And with our time and wealth, there are two key principles: We become successful by what we get, but we become happy by what we give. And what we give includes our time, our wealth, our energy.
And when those things are used to make a positive difference in the lives of others, to help others move forward to make an impact, that legacy will never be taken away.
And as Maya Angelou said, “People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
This story may be old, but the message is so relevant!
Posted by Jay Shetty on Saturday, September 29, 2018
There was once a very wealthy and curious king. He placed a boulder on a very popular path in his kingdom and hid nearby to see how people dealt with this new challenge. As many people would be walking along this path and coming across the boulder, they would complain about the king and how he’d behaved by leaving this there on this path. Some even criticized him for not caring about his citizens.
Then on man came across this boulder, and he saw it and thought, “Why don’t I move this out of the way? This is causing so much pain and stress to my fellow villagers. I should move this away.” He started to push the boulder. It took a lot of pressure. It took a lot of strain. But after much effort, he managed to move it away from the path.
As he was about to walk on, he saw a small bag that had been laid underneath the boulder. He went closer to it and looked inside. The bag was full of gold coins. The king at this moment revealed himself, approached this gentleman and said, “You’re the person I’ve been looking for.” The man was actually confused. He said, “What is it that I’ve done?”
He said, “You were the only person in the kingdom to choose to move this boulder out of the way. And there’s a very important lesson here. Because you chose to do this, you’ve shown that any obstacle can turn into an opportunity for growth, learning, and success.”
Often all of us are greeted in life by boulders on our path, whether it’s in our careers, whether it’s in our relationships. And what we need to remind ourselves at that point is that we can either be like the people who complained and criticized, or be like this one person who decided to move the boulder and see every point of adversity as an opportunity for growth.
There are 4 words that have killed more dreams than rejection, failure, or anyone in the world. So you’re probably wondering, “What are those 4 words?”
We all feel that rejection kills dreams. We all feel that failure kills dreams. We all feel that people kills dreams. [You can’t kill my dreams!]
But actually, there’re 4 words that we say in our heads. To ourselves. That genuinely have destroyed more dreams than all of those things put together. Those 4 words are… WHAT WILL PEOPLE SAY? What will people say? How many times have you stopped yourself from doing something because you’re scared of how people will react?
How many times out of the fear of someone else’s opinion or criticism have you stopped yourself from doing what you believe in? How many times have someone’s perception or perspective stopped you from living your potential? [Too many times to count…]
I want to tell you a story about a man and his father who were walking with their horse through a market. While they were walking through, one of the people in the market saw them, and he said. “You fools! You’re so stupid! If you have a horse, why wouldn’t you ride it? They thought, “Oh, wow, maybe that person’s right.”
So when they went on to the next market, this time, the young man got on top of the horse and the old man walked by its side. In the next market, another person saw them and shouted out, “How insensitive can you be young man? You’re letting your old father walk while you ride the horse. That’s completely inconsiderate!” The young man thought, “Oh wow, maybe that person’s right.” Out of that criticism, he got off the horse and allowed his father to ride the horse.
They arrived in the next market. When they arrived in the next market, one of the people saw them and said, “Oh my god! Old man, why are you being so inconsiderate? You’re being so lazy. You’re letting your son walk while you ride the horse.” Again, the son and the old man thought, “Oh my god, maybe this person’s right.”
And when they went to the next market, they were both riding the horse together. They thought, “This time, no one can have any complaints, no one can have any criticism.” To their surprise, one of the people in the market shouted out, “You’re both the most inconsiderate, lazy people I’ve ever seen. You’re both putting so much weight on this horse. How do you go to sleep at night?”
I love that story and that anecdote because it just shows, no matter what you choose to do, there will always be people who find fault with it. There will always be people who criticize, complain, who try to bring you down and tell you that what you’re doing isn’t right. [Haters gonna hate.]
It’s crazy that we give up what we most want in life just based on people’s opinions. And the crazy thing is, if we’re living for other people’s opinions, we’ll never be right. There will always be someone with something that they don’t agree with. And this is why it’s so important that we work with our own conviction. We work on what matters to us.
It was Aristotle who told us, “There’s only 3 ways to avoid criticism. Do Nothing. Say Nothing. Be Nothing.” And I’m sure none of us want that of our future. So don’t let anyone’s opinion stop you. Don’t let anyone’s criticism hold you back. Keep following your passions. Invest in what you believe in. And remember: Don’t let people’s compliments get to your head, and don’t let their criticism get to your heart.
When asked “What is the biggest mistake we make in life?” the Buddha replied, “The biggest mistake is you think you have time.” Time is free, but it’s priceless. You can’t own it, but you can use it. You can’t keep it, but you can spend it. And once it’s lost you can never get it back.
The average person lives 78 years. We spend 28.3 years of our life sleeping. That’s almost a third of our life, but 30% of us struggle to sleep well. We spend 10.5 years of our life working, but over 50% of us want to leave our current jobs. Time is more valuable than money. You can get more money, but you can never get more time.
We spend 9 years on T.V. and social media. We spend 6 years doing chores. We spend 4 years eating and drinking. We spend 3.5 years in education. We spend 2.5 years grooming. We spend 2.5 years shopping. We spend 1.5 years in child care. We spend 1.3 years commuting. That leaves us with 9 years. How will we spend that time?
Steve Jobs said “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.” So there’s good news and there’s bad news. The bad news is time flies; the good news is you’re the pilot. Imagine you wake up every day with $86,400 in your bank account, and at the end of the night it’s all gone whether you spent it or not. And then the next day you get another $86,400. What would we do with it?
Everyday 86,400 seconds are deposited into your life account. At the end of the day once they’re all used up, you get a new 86,400 seconds. We would never waste it if it was money, so why do we waste it when it comes to time? Those seconds are so much more powerful than dollars because you can always make more dollars, you can’t always make more time.
To realize the value of 1 year, ask a student who failed a grade. To realize the value of 1 month, ask a mother who lost their child in the final month. To realize the value of 1 week, ask the editor of an online magazine. To realize the value of 1 hour, ask the couple who’s in a long distance relationship. To realize the value of 1 minute, ask the person who just missed a bus, train, or plane. To realize the value of 1 second, ask the person who just missed an accident. To realize the value of a millisecond, ask the person who just came 2nd at the Olympics.
We think that it’s people wasting our time, but it’s really us giving them the permission to do that. And in reality, these 2 people live inside us. Don’t let someone be a priority when all you are to them is an option. Some of us lose the people most important to us because we don’t value their time. Some of us don’t recognize how important someone is to us until they’re gone.
Inside all of us are 2 voices – 1 voice that wants to uplift, 1 voice that want us to expand. 1 voice that want us to grow. And then there’s the other voice – The voice that holds us back. The voice that makes us lazy. The voice that makes us complacent. The voice that restricts us from our potential.
Every day from the moment we wake up until the moment we go to sleep, inside of us there’s this battle between the 2 voices. And guess which one wins? The one that we listen to the most. The one that we feed. The one that we amplify. It is our choice of how we use our time.
Life and time are the best two teachers. Life teaches us to make good use of time and time teaches us the value of Life. And as William Shakespeare said, “Time is very slow for those who want, very fast for those who are scared, very long for those who are sad, and very short for those who celebrate, but for those who love, time is eternal.”